Sunday, March 5

A Reflection

Attending a friends sons wedding on Saturday I noticed the same reflection was chosen for the Wedding Service as was the case at our eldest daughters wedding. It’s was of particular appeal to us and those good friends at our table at the Reception later.

At our table the 5 couples all shared at least 4 things in common.
40 years plus in courtship and or marriage.
All with grandchildren
Agreed our children have become our best friends.
Agreed we feel much more centred and growing older was the best part of our lives.

Below is the reflection from ‘Captain Corelli’s Mandolin’ by Louis de Barmier

Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because that is what love is.

Love is not breathless; it is not excitement; it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being ‘in love ‘which any of us convince ourselves we are.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms had fallen from our branches were found that we were one tree and not two.


madcapmum said...

That's lovely, and very true.

DA said...

That is is so beautiful Lindsay. Thank you for remembering me..

Granny said...

Beautiful. I haven't read the book but loved the movie.

Gary said...

Nice indeed...

Lindsay Lobe said...

Thanks Madcap, DA, Grany & Gary.
Best wishes

Vee said...

Oh that's a wonderful piece of writing and sentiment. Something to be remembered and carried around. Thanks for posting it Lindsay. It's given me something to think about.

Alice said...

That is so true Lindsay. I wonder if the divorce rate would be lower if more people had that perception of love?

I could also relate to the 4 points in common with your fellow diners.

I've only just 'discovered' your blog, but will visit often now.

Nicla said...

I was just looking through your Blogg and reading all of your great articles and poems. I was interested to read your thoughts on ageing. What a wonderful perspective you have on growing older. So often we are afraid of losing a grip on the experience of youth. When we're children we wish to be older and more independant but when we're older we seem to be always looking backwards to the "good" old days. But in youth I agree there is so much uncertainty and second guessing and often we feel far too concerned about what others will think or how we will be perceived. For me, as the years pass and experience equips me to cope with life I feel more and more comfortable in my own skin.